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August 11, 2014

Many people live in the same home but never become a family. In a family, when one person is hurting, the entire family hurts. When one person is happy, the entire family is happy. Family members will make sacrifices to accommodate each person needs. Family members do not always agree. There will be arguments and disagreements but they never fall out of love.

In a family, there is love, respect, honest, unity and each member want to see every member succeed and to be happy. Family members do not rejoice when another member of the family is hurting or suffering. How can a member (so easily) turn their back on another member when they ask for help? Is this love or empty words? So often, many members allow material things to distort their way of thinking. No material things are worth turning your back on your family. In most cases, the people you do the most for, is the first people to turn their backs on you.

A man had two sons, and he came to the first and said, ‘Son, go, work today in my vineyard.’  He answered and said, ‘I will not,’ but afterward he regretted it and went.  Then he came to the second and said likewise. And he answered and said, ‘I go, sir,’ but he did not go.  Which of the two did the will of his father?” (Matthew 21:28-31)

I am reminded of a single mother and the sacrifices she made for her children. The children grew up and entered into relationships. When this mother asked for help, they forgotten of the sacrifices she had made and turned their backs on this mother. This mother was there for the children during their sickness, changing diapers, buying milk and food for her children, borrowing money to buy medicine between paydays, working two jobs to keep a roof over their heads and clothes on their back and never too busy to carry them to school activities after working all day. She did all this with a smile on her face and said “no charge”. I watched the pain on this mother face, the hurt in her heart, the disappointment and being rejected by the children she had loved unconditional.  Never outgrow your family!

In the family of God, His desires for us are to live peaceful with all men, love unconditional as God have loved us and always ready for reconciliation. When we make mistakes, God is willing to forgive us. When we fail, He picks us up. When we are doing wrong; He loves us still. God is the True Vine and we are the branches.  We draw life, breath, love and the Living water from the True Vine. Therefore we share the same DNA. A grape vine does not yield grapefruits. In our earthly family, each member share some of the same DNA, the same blood, but unique in different ways.

God never meant for us to be alone, that’s why He gave Eve to Adam. That why He gave us families. If you still have parents, sisters and brothers; do everything within your powers to show love to them. When friends have disappeared, family is here to stay. No amount of success is worth turning your back on family. When the lid of the coffin have been closed on a love one, make sure you hold good memories of love and not any regrets.

The Bible refers to selfish families to let you know (in a family, there will be members with jealously, envy, strife and alternative motives.)

 Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.  And in the process of time it came to pass that Cain brought an offering of the fruit of the ground to the Lord.  Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat. And the Lord respected Abel and his offering, but He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell. (Genesis 4:2-5)

So Esau swore to him, and sold his birthright to Jacob.  And Jacob gave Esau bread and stew of lentils; then he ate and drank, arose, and went his way. Thus Esau despised his birthright. (Genesis 25:34)

Now Joseph had a dream, and he told it to his brothers; and they hated him even more. (Genesis 37:5)

Then He said: “A certain man had two sons.   And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.’ So he divided to them his livelihood.  And not many days after, the younger son gathered all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal living.  But when he had spent all, there arose a severe famine in that land and he began to be in want. (Luke 1:11-14)

Blood is thicker than water. Family members are placed into a particular family for a reason. Some members strengthen the family while other members pull the family down. Satan plans are being carried out. His plan is to kill or destroy the family. Some members will place strangers before family members. Some members will carry grudges to the grave. When death have drawn the curtain over your eyelids, there is no forgiveness, no apology; only remorse and regrets to the surviving member.

God have charged the children and the parents. It appears; younger people are dying at a very fast rate. Children are to bury the parents and not for parents to stand over children graves. If we harken to the word of God, we have His promise for a life of longevity. At the gravesite, we place flowers, shed tears and say our good-bye but the body in the grave can’t see the flowers, see the tears or even hear the words “I love you”. Repeat: “If God have blessed you with living family members, love them with all your hearts and cherish them. Never be afraid to love unconditional or worry that your love will be taken for weakness”.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise:  “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth”. (Ephesians 6:1-3)

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)


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  1. Pastor Marion permalink

    Pastor you are on it. So true

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