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November 17, 2014

When a person loses a love one, they go through a mourning period. Every person mourns different. For some, the period will pass in a few weeks. For others, the period may last for years.

When my sister died in 2010, it was a very dark day for me; but I believe it was a very bright day for her. I believe with all my heart that she went home to live with Jesus. People have said; it has been years and you need to move on with your life.

How can we place a time length on mourning? When you have loved a sister for forty years makes it difficult to go “cold turkey”. Alcoholics, drug users and smokers have avenues to help them to quit their habits gradually. If you lost a limb after forty years, it will take time to learn to improvise and learn to live without that limb.

As ministers, we have to always put on a strong showing for the family. Ministers and leaders are humans. When we lose a love one; we hurt, too. We have the Scriptures, family members and friends to help pull us through this mourning period. We know that “death is certain”, but we are never prepared for it; especially if they are not sick. If a person is sick unto death, we can prepare ourselves for their departure. If a person dies unexpected or suspicious will make death harder to accept.  We have confidence that Jesus is the resurrection and we will see that love one again.

When death comes, we say “good-bye” to that family member, parent or friend. On the other side, there is someone there to greet them and welcome them to their new home (if they have died in Christ).

The loss of a love one hurt us all.  We miss their laughter, to never see their smiles again, hear their voice and miss them during holiday festivities. It is alright to mourn and there is no certain amount of time. As with life, everyone manage circumstances different. In the Scriptures, the death of Lazarus caused Jesus to weep. “Jesus wept” (John 11:35)

There’s a time to be born and a time to die. There’s a time to weep and a time to laugh.  A time to mourn and a time to dance. (Ecclesiastes 3: 2, 4)

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. (Matt. 5:4)

Prayer: O Gracious God, God of the living and the dead. Many come before You today with bowed heads and a broken heart. As death have invaded the ranks of the living, we ask you to comfort the bereave families right now. We realize dark clouds have covered certain families. Bless these families to continue looking unto the Hill from whence all their help comes. Grant them peace and understanding. We thank You for the time You have loaned these love ones to us. When we are all alone, in the dark days and the weary hours, stay with us, Lord.  Be a Friend to us. Give us strength and a consultation that our love ones are with you.  We know that we shall see our love ones again in the resurrection. We know, as long as we keep our love ones memories alive in our hearts; they will live forever.  Father, we thank you for comforting us, giving us peace and the resurrection. Thank you for Your Son dying on the cross that we shall live with You and be reunited with our love ones. Amen and Amen

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  1. Pastor Fairley we heard your heart and thank you for the heartfelt words of comfort to those of us that have lost loved ones. You remind us all that it is our trust in the one who is the resurrection and the life, that will one day welcome us as we are reunited with those we love. Until the it is he that will comfort us in sorrow. Amen and Amen! Great post!

  2. This is the week. I needed this. Thank God for you!

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